The term "willpower" is a generic term, it would be correct to speak of will power anevrotica. There are people who can put great energy field, with huge efforts to reach a goal that they consider a priority. These people have a strong will so that helps them to overcome all the difficulties that stand between them and the purpose, but this desire could be a neurotic. The object is something that would tend everything: their strength is not derived from an inner quality, but the neurosis which boosted the value of the order in which they tend.
Bluffing - So it turns out that, confronted with unexpected difficulties, unpleasant situations, testing their physical choices and so on., Become weak and brittle. Because in life you can not expect to always find situations that we choose and we believe that positive and / or stimulating, well of course as having "only" a force of will can not help much.
The real strength of will, useful and important to be strong people, is so that anevrotica:
the ability to control itself without a purpose.
I must be able to force myself things that most normal people can do. If I can not wear the watch on your wrist, if it gives me a terrible annoyance to see a snake on TV, though I fear the dark, if I can not study more than ten minutes, if I tired to do housework or hoe the garden, if I can not stand this, if I can not stand that, my willpower is weak anevrotica. I've got to impose my mind to run my orders without there being a prize rewarding. The example of what can be difficult to build a force of will is not represented neurotic the difficulty of millions of people in quitting smoking. I have found who we can really have a strong will anevrotica, because it must have a total self-control of his psyche.
Generally it is thought that the control of the psyche is implemented with a perfect self-control, but self-control is a state which can be reached through the implementation of the most basic conditions as calm, concentration and coldness. In many individuals there is a degree of self-control, but even so people are not mentally strong. Their self-control is not global, but rather the result of situations experienced unconsciously. For example, education can lead a person to control unconsciously, his anger, or the habit of thinking can help you work well in a very chaotic.
In fact, the self-control is a multi-dimensional element and the individual may develop a few. That becomes important to understand that self-control can not be left to our life experiences, but must be cultivated and trained.
Who is limited to a partial self-control in general can not develop its strength anevrotica beyond certain limits.
What is a better overall self-control? To complete the improvement of their strength began to control their own bodies, eliminating: *
any dependence
* Any phobia.
For the first point we refer to the article on smoking (in particular, see the second part) and the one on drugs. For the second to the phobias. The method
How can you build and maintain their will anevrotica? The method of Well-being is simple:
we must impose the achievement of goals regardless of the actual reward (anevrotica test).
The only reward is to be the control that we have on the psyche and our body. This method is applied with a more limited scope of many disciplines of self-control, the problem of these disciplines (such as autogenic training) is that, regardless the early years, the discussion gets too abstract and does not directly address the problem of the individual. It should make a very important clarification: The goals that increase FVAN have nothing to do with courage. No need to jump with a parachute, take a snake with his hands, face a crossing without water in Death Valley and so on. The FVAN is exercised by winning the dizziness in lean (no objective risk) from a balcony railing with a safe, harmless lizard nell'accarezzare or endure the scorching heat in a normal hot summer day.
Some believe that the method is too simplistic, but it is not, as it is the only one who can work in the long run.
In reality this is not to treat clinical cases, but simple situations that do not lead to pathological mental states decisively. If it bothers me to take the elevator because I am slightly claustrophobic, I have to force me to take it until it passes. This means having a strong will anevrotica. If you are using the strategy
* yield, that is used as an excuse "for me is impossible," "there will never" etc.
* the strategy of escape, that is used as an excuse "but I need to win my difficulties? So I can avoid it!
and then I'll never be able to build a strong anevrotica.
If you do not have a clinical case, I can tackle the problem head on, alone or with the help of others. If you can not stand the sight of a snake, I buy a video about reptiles and watch endlessly. The test
- Although this section is clear enough, many are still unwilling to repeat "or are born with a good will power, or are born doomed." This is not an excuse that yield above-mentioned, too easy. For them I have invented a test that is also a terrific way of training. What better sport to train your own FVAN? Who makes sport
intense levels has inevitably FVAN a very good (at least not a person who is very neurotic sport only to succeed in a certain context), then the most easy to train and play sports in the medium to high intensity. For example I noticed that many beginners start running do not know what the slightest sensation to lactic acid (which causes the breath) so give up long before you get there.
Here is a simple test (for a healthy person, that visit has passed a fitness sport, it is important to be trained or thin, just be healthy!): 1 km run for all of us fail, then:
run for 1000 m trying to achieve the best possible time. Done? Check out the conditions under which you came.
a) Do you have a light breath, it was nice to sprint the last 100 m. You gave 20%, using very little FVAN.
b) In the second half we seemed to die, but you're still standing and satisfied smile of your test. You gave 50%.
c) You are very tired, it takes at least 30 "before we speak, having caught his breath. You have given 80%.
d) You are lying down or sitting on the first thing that has provided support. You were already in crisis after 200-300 m, but you rectum with a breath that he felt a few miles away, over the past 50 m his legs have become even lead and arms ached. You have given 100%.
course in case d) we would approach a good coach and I would say, "Well guys, you made only the first thousand of the 10 you have to do. Get up and go to the next. "
Let's see what are the areas where we can ask anevrotici goals (the order is alphabetical, not of importance!). If you want, before you discover them, take the test of willpower anevrotica.
burst of iraCalma - No shots of anger or nerves, calmly discuss with anyone. Who gets angry, first to plead its case, must learn to fend for himself.
Food - Who will become a teacher observation will have noticed that for many people food is a pleasure of life. And so. Only be strong means to enjoy the food, but not be slaves. How to be a sommelier does not mean being an alcoholic. Those who can not follow a diet and can not control himself, eats whenever he wants and everything he wants is a slave to your body. Those who can not go on a diet often relies on a variety of false reasons that actually conceal a series of subterfuges food, but the problem is not dieting, but to accustom your body to eat (and drink) when we say. Phrases typical of those who have a poor FVAN are: If you do not eat something, I faint, I have a thirst to death (five tenths of a second after walking under the sun ...) and so on.
Climate - A person who can not stand the heat, cold, wind etc.. a FVAN (willpower anevrotica) to increase. Never say: The heat from death, that unbearably cold, so I can not stand the wind. Endured enough and you will learn to become stronger and the weather will not affect most of your days. What right do you have to pretend to live forever in a beautiful spring day? (Note: If you have not FVAN, in the aforementioned spring day you will annoy the birds chirping!).
not stand the heat or the heat of summer? There un'uggiosa growing melancholy day in winter? With the observation, however, you should have learned to find the positive in these times, but this is not the point. Now you need to focus on considering all these "adverse" irrelevant. You feel the heat and lack there are people he plays tennis in the sun, you growing melancholy to the greyness of the day and there are people who are happy because the weather promises a great collection of fungi. It is you who are wrong, you just get stronger and find gratification in every small increase in your strength.
How it works?
Instead of fleeing, addressed the adverse climatic conditions.
afaQuindi not use the strategy of escape (typical of the personality weak), but nothing more than fans or air conditioning (which we are becoming weaker and weaker), stop mourn the situation and buttatevici inside. The important thing is to merge with what is around the only way we can love and be loved by this before it destroys us. Have you ever noticed when children play in a lawn? They jumped to the ground and seem to blend with what you have around. Then, growing up, forget it, they begin to hate the grass because the dirty clothes, no longer snowball because it is too cold, do not go out when it rains because it can take a malady: do not begin to smile more ... You have to think that everything is
friend: the heat is not a source of fatigue, but it is vital, that same strength that comes from the sun, which means life, the rain is not sad and detrimental: the rain can do the same things that takes place with the sun, just wanting to, all you need appreciate the thirst for water drops that fall in our mouths open upward. Those who build a strong will try to escape, it becomes increasingly intolerant, every year is getting hotter and it is increasingly difficult to resist. And then the alibi. The heat is the most sympathetic to the low pressure: a pity that there are people (including myself, 100-70) that the low pressure well to bear the heat, the cold fear of evils: that sin to be sick its always those who defend themselves from any bad weather.
It's amazing how people can not appreciate the life in the best conditions (not always). A statement taken from my own experience. In sunny Sunday in the countryside around the city there are many people: joggers, walkers with the excuse of looking for a flower, who has a bike ride with his family, who goes on horseback, who does photography. Now let's go to the same campaign on Sundays when it rains: none or only a few "hero." Moral of the story: who has abandoned not only for the bad weather he loves what he does when the sun shines. In fact, the same things you can do when it rains. Who is left to stop a drop of water has a large force of will come back and do not worry kids to go home all wet.
who understood exactly what will anevrotica will understand this too paragraph. In effect what has been said could be misunderstood as to train the body in extreme situations as if they were all of Rambo. In fact not only not needed, but it is counterproductive. Getting used to bear the summer heat does not mean toasted with terrible burns in the sun in August. Accept the winter weather in January does not mean sleeping with the window open or hold low heat (read about how to avoid the ills of the season). Anevrotica not have the strength to endure the climate means to accept with serenity the things when it is in normal, do not try to oppose it with a complaint after another. There are people and people warm to cold, but chiariamolo once and for all, be affected by climate does not mean being weak. It is weak when "collapses into": if the cold put the sweater, but not depressed, and if I drink I'm hot and I undress, but not begin to puff and curse the heat.
Finally, an anecdote. Years ago we had booked a field to play the decisive game which was to determine the superiority between us and our opponents (all friends, of course, but in two different schools). The day before it rained cats and dogs in the morning and continued with the same intensity. Began to spread through the idea of \u200b\u200bpostponing the game and gave me the task of warning the guardian of the field that we would not have played. Two irreducible convinced me But to make one last attempt. We made everybody believe that "others" there would have been, was a work of conviction is very comprehensive, psychologically perfect (some also mentioned that it was a pity to lose the deposit for reservation ...). Eventually we found ourselves in eighteen and played under water flying. We enjoyed ourselves so much that the keeper after two hours we felt he had to train another team (in the meantime of course, start the second half, to push out was a beautiful sunny).
I lost contact with the four who were not, but certainly in their lives have lost and continue to lose many occasions.
Concentration - not you see how bad a noise which disturbs the concentration, but apprezzatelo as a test (to observe and remember to always find the positive!). If you can not study or work just because some child playing in the yard under the house and makes noise, you have to do some more 'street. Ditto if you can not sleep because the noise is near a sink or lose: Do not blame the world around them, are you that you must learn to astrarvi who are still too weak.
Pain - Who goes to great lengths to avoid pain, those who fear him in an exaggerated way, who never wants to talk about death or disease, those who feel ill at the sight of blood, who was scared to death of a dentist FVAN that can (and should) be increased. It makes no sense to escape the pain or unpleasant feelings: some should be avoided, but if you have to be addressed and to do the best we need a FVAN. The alternative is to use tranquilizers, antidepressants or to anything that numbs us. Think of how the smoke was considered a few decades ago who was smoking and smoking was great it was to be strong and men. We now know that smoking is rather a symptom of weakness if I need a cigarette to overcome a difficult or even simple boredom, I'm very very bad!
Coldness - If you bother to see Tom making a gesture or Gaius that makes another, think that you are too vulnerable to other people because those things do not cause the slightest discomfort. Then commit to remove them, to be insensitive to external situations.
Relaxation - Check our psyche can be useful relaxation techniques, the basis of all self-control. If you can not relax completely, you will never have full control of yourself. These techniques are taught in many disciplines (especially Eastern), but are exposed in every good book on biofeedback that can be as fast as the starting point. It is not necessary to arrive at the top of the discipline. Concentrate instead on the basics, if you bought a book on biofeedback, re-read a hundred times the first part and just do it to perfection.
Sleep - Sleep is also a key resource, but being strong means being able to control his body not to abuse the hours of sleep. Who over the weekend or holiday gets up very late and lazy beds hardly knows how to control her own body. If you knew that tomorrow there will happen a great thing, being able to sleep until noon or rather you would not be standing at dawn? The early bird catches the worm says a famous proverb and translate it in a more existential language, those who sleep do so only on the basis that has nothing better to do: sleep becomes one of the few pleasures of life (reduced bad ... ). Of course we must not misunderstand this paragraph. Being night owls, and only a few hours sleep per night is not a show of force and physical control. Again it is important to reach a minimum level of sufficiency: In addition, other factors come into play that have little to do with strength.
What these tests have in common the power of control over their body? Simple:
control their physical means not being slaves to their bodies.
If you just listen, not just give it always won. A philosophy of the type if I am hungry I eat, I sleep when I sleep, if I'm tired I stop, it destroys any reaction force. The wise man knows how to evaluate the message body and its strength lies in imposing a minimum level of control: if I'm strong to be able to travel at least 10 km per hour, I wake before a certain time, I must be able to withstand a mega-binge etc..
Sport - Sport is a great workout at FVAN. Who avoids it because it is too tired or who pretends to do it for oneself a good conscience should increase its FVAN. Sport is a great gym to train FVAN is not only a way to keep fit. No coincidence that the proposed test to see if you have a good FVAN is an endurance test (short), running for only 1,000 m.
Touch - How to view, examples abound such as the inability to touch an animal that sucks. There are those who can not stand the watch, faith or tie. Warning: There is a big difference between not wearing never tie (personal choice) and do not bear to wear it. Even a game can be useful for strengthening: you know resist tickling the soles of the feet?
Hearing - Who can not stand the silence, who can not concentrate in the midst of the noise, those who can not get to sleep if they pass the cars on the street, who gets nervous because children play beneath her balcony has a FVAN to increase . Remember that you are you having to adapt to the world and not expect the world to suit you. Learn to work or study in the toughest conditions, appreciate what before you bothered.
Vista - Who's afraid of the dark, who can not stand the sight of an animal suffering of dizziness can easily get to the test. Do not say, are all things that I can avoid. Running away only means to be unprepared when it can no longer escape. It also missed many opportunities to make their lives better. As a child I had shown some interest in insects, my grandparents so that it filled the house of critters I had been told that some insects, especially grasshoppers, could bring terrible diseases. In five years you do not have enough critical sense to investigate: the result was that the locusts terrified me to the point that if I saw a record-breaking race. Growing up, I learned that the poor little things, although it might suck, were completely innocuous. One day (I was about sixteen years) in the country I happened to find myself on the verge of a huge green grasshopper that was resting on a branch. I decided it was time to let me pass the terror of the animal. Calmly grabbed, looked (it was really horrible) and then passed me on the face, after which the liberals. In that moment I knew what it meant to have a strong will anevrotica: none required it to me, I could live very well even with fear of grasshoppers, but it was absurd that I commanded my mind, commanding an aversion meaningless. The moral is this: it was not fear of the horse that I had to win, but it was my psyche that I had to train to do what I wanted. Just so I could be certain which if necessary would have helped and supported me in overcoming the difficulties of life. Achieving the goals
anevrotici is not easy, but it does not even attempt (convinced that we can live well the same) it is unwise to live well is not a right, is a magnificent achievement. On the other hand, happiness is not for the poor.
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